You are not “just” anything. You are so much more.
Purple Teacup Blogger’s Retreat
I attended a blogging retreat almost 2 weeks ago. My blogging mentor Hope arranged the retreat (NOT a conference!), where 25 (amazing, powerful, interesting, insert other inspiring adjectives here) women came together for a weekend of blogging, networking, and self care. Sure, everyone came for different reasons. But I think it’s safe to say that everyone walked away with an utterly unique and worthwhile experience.
I had been looking forward to the retreat for months. Originally, the plan was for this to be an escape from my soul-sucking full time job and ridiculous commute (which is a story for another time). Funnily enough, I actually accepted a new job closer to home about 2 weeks before the retreat, so it ended up just being a vacation I could enjoy. I cannot begin to tell you how refreshing it was to get away without constant anxiety (about my job) in the back of my brain. Well, no more than my usual amount of anxiety anyway!
Beware the “just”
During one of the speakers, the idea of the dangers of the word “just” came up. How many times have we as women said “I’m just a mom, I just have a bachelor’s degree, I just work here…I just I just I just.
I honestly agree with the conversation at the retreat, that “just” is a concept that plagues women more than men. In my experience, women are taught to make themselves small, to be meek and obedient, to not call attention to themselves. And we are told not take credit for success if it might border on boasting. Enter this 4 letter word I’ve been talking about here. It’s a dismissive word, meant to diminish ourselves and our accomplishments.
Do you see all those negative words in the last paragraph? That’s merely a small sampling of my feelings on how women are viewed and treated in American society. Keep in mind, those are the G-rated ideas. Get me on a roll and I can spew other 4 letter words that are not “just” about this topic. Actually, while I’m on the subject of owning our accomplishments and traits, I know a lot of things! And I’m proud of that, society be damned.
When I started writing this post, I meant to write a review/recap of the retreat. Oops.
Having said that, I implore you to be mindful of not only how you speak TO yourself, but also how you speak ABOUT yourself.
I know it’s easier said than done. Please try to avoid using the word “just” when describing yourself, your traits, your job, or your accomplishments. I’m working on it too, and I’m in your corner.
And if you want to be part of a community of bloggers who are amazing, interesting, unique, and working on changing the world? Check out some of Hope’s courses at the link in my first paragraph, or find her community on Facebook.